It’s a fact. There are plenty of people that feel unhappy in their own marriage. But the actual question many are asking themselves is, how do I know when my marriage is really over?
Is it when your partner says, “I don’t love you anymore?” Is it after an affair occurs? How do you REALLY … It’s a fact. There are plenty of people that feel unhappy in their own marriage. But the actual question many are asking themselves is, how do I know when my marriage is really over?
Is it when your partner says, “I don’t love you anymore?” Is it after an affair occurs? How do you REALLY understand? Keep reading to discover the best way to identify the warning signs that generally signify your partner has given up on your marriage.
First and Foremost:
What is the Point of No Return in a marriage? Is there such a thing? After working with couples for over 11 years, I Have identified a particular “route” that couples travel in route to divorce. And at the end of this trail is what I call… The Point of No Return.
In most cases, your marriage ISN’T over when:
– Your partner moves out
– When your partner says the ill-famed, “I adore you, but I’m not in love with you anymore”
– When your partner threatens you with divorce
And believe it or not, in some situations, your marriage ISN’T around…when your spouse files for divorce.
Your marriage ISN’T finished when your partner begs, pleads, asserts, shouts, storms out of the house or turns the entire family against you.
There’s absolutely no life in your partner’s voice and no life in his/her eyes. Your partner doesn’t get mad with you. S/he just tells you when the divorce papers are definitely going to be served.
Your marriage is most likely over when your partner has made complete lists of assets and debts with your both of your names on them.
Your partner has reached The Point of No Return when s/he already knows the courts require a 120 day waiting period and s/he’s emotionally bolted him/herself in place for the long delay.
You’ve gone WAY beyond an “unhappy marriage” when your partner has talked many times to the children about divorce and they’re now either scared, angry, hurt, lost or emotionally shut down.
There’s an excellent opportunity your marriage is over when your partner doesn’t care about how your children feel about it. S/he’s just acting for his/her own survival at this point and s/he’s repeatedly convinced him/herself that “The kids are good, they will be fine.” S/he may have even stated that to friends and relatives.
This really is the ACTUAL Point of No Return.
A marriage gets to this point because we live in a society that’s convinced that once you are married, there’s nothing you need to learn about marriage and nothing you need to practice.
All you need is love.
In the event you don’t have love, then it’s all your fault that your marriage failed. As a result of this belief, you kept on doing precisely what you always did…your version of love.
You treated your partner the exact same way your dad treated your mother…or vice versa. You kept on doing the same thing and kept on getting exactly the same results.
Your partner can barely really help you to help him or her. Regardless of how really many times s/he told you how to fulfill his/her demands, you couldn’t hear…you simply couldn’t comprehend.
How do I know this?
I understand it because every single divorce is made on exactly the same system. When your emotional demands aren’t met in a marriage, everywhere from 1-3 of the situations listed below will begin to happen in your marriage.